Typical Parents

hey blog. i am back after 2 weeks. currently on raya holidays from 16 july to 26 july.

such a long holiday that i have haha but then i have spent too much on the daily expenses.

too much outing since 16 july until yesterday.

meeting up with my buddies and chit chat nonstop.  watched ant man too. it was awesome. a recommended movie.

went to Damai beach resort for a 2 day 1 night with my church youth and it was fun.

well, as you can see the title today, typical parents. they are referred to my parents.

i believe every family has their own family education style, so does my parents.

but one thing i would like to admit, my parents are over-protective and they are kinda typical.

i also want to admit that i have ever backstabbed my parents, i even judged them behind, like seriously.  not joking.

whatever i say, my parents can always against me back, or talk back me which i abhor it a lot and a lot.

i mean like, why can't you listen to your daughter's point of view? why must your daughter listen to yours all the time?

I admit whatever they judge on me, do for me, scold me are for my own good. Nevertheless, sometimes they are over. over the limit.

I could not stand with their judgement and continue to agree with whatever they say.

If i talk back, they will scold me with nonsense and un-logic reasons. Why can't they offer us a chance to say whatever we want?

Family education means scolding and nagging or what? sometimes i am really cannot stand with it.

Especially my mum. She can even scold me just because of i did not arrange the pillows placed on the sofa.

I was like, seriously?! Aren't we sitting on the couch everyday? Why do you need to bother about the arrangements of the pillows?

I could not get her point. She can scold me because of tiny matters. I keep on asking myself, Why do you care? Oh my goodness.

My parents are over the limit. Too protective.

They did not even allow me to drive alone since i have got my driving license for 1 year plus.

They will only keep on saying there are too many cars on the road, my driving skill not good and they don't have confidence and bla bla bla bunch of nonsense reasons.

I just want to drive. Just give me some confidence. I am your daughter. Why can't you offer some confidence to your daughter? have self confident please.

Not like i do not know what to do. Never try never know. Who knows if I can do better?

They also do not allow me to go travel around with my friends. They are afraid i might get bullied or robbed and etc.

This reason is still acceptable but then seriously, let me be independence a bit. I know what should i do once i left my house's doorstep.

I want to grow up, I want to be independence. I do not want to be a dependant girl. I do not want to depends on my parents all the time. I am trying not to.

The reason i want to be dependant is because I do not want my parents to worry me as they have been taking care of me since the moment i was born.

I am kinda admire those family in the foreign country, their family education is much different from the Asians. I m Asian.

Foreign country, they are more to offering private space to their children. Because children are not stupid.

They are smart. Just, we need to offer them some little time for them to go and excavate everything in  sight. They have brain. They will think. This is to help them to improve their decision making and problem solving skills.

As a future early childhood educator, I am strongly agree with the family education in the foreign country.

Private space and some free space are needed for the children in the family education.

Do not ever force the children to do something they do not like. That's not a right way of educating the children. It will only caused unwanted psychological disease to the children.

Try to offer some time for the children to solve the problems that happened. Do not be too strict to the children. Don't make them hate you.

Though I hate it when my parents start to nag me, I am still very grateful and thankful that i can be their daughter.

I know they love me that's why they nag and scold me.

I just hope they can be free a bit especially when they are educating me so i won't feel suffocating. I need some breathe.

I love my parents. They can do anything just to cheer me up.

They can buy anything as i like just to ful-fill my wish. Thanks mum and dad.

Without both of you, i won't be here today. May God bless you two always.

I will be your daddy girl forever. I will be your mummy girl forever.  Love you two forever <3 <3

7月9日

好久不见。誓言每个月都要上来一次。7月9日，转眼间，已经是我第四个学期又一个月又一天。

这也意味着我不再是第一年的学生。上个学期的成绩已在六月18日就放榜了。

全科侥幸过关，当中还有两科优等。我最没有信心的一科竟然及格了！可是没有达到心中的目标，看来要很努力才行了。加油吧！

顿时的我又相信自己不会读书没关系，最重要是努力！话说真的，我是一个不会读书的孩子。

以前，懒懒散散的我因为不会读书而几乎天天都在玩，天天都在放弃自己。这是真的。

现在，不会读书的我开始努力了，害怕自己的将来因为现在没有努力而就这样毁掉。

谢谢爸爸妈妈的提醒，虽然我觉得很唠叨，但你们也是为我好。我会尽力的。

我不敢去想象，也不想去想，只想努力及珍惜读书的日子。因为出来这个社会，就无法再想学习时期一样可以玩乐。

我想拿个文凭，用透明硬纸粘起来(laminate)，储存在一个文件夹，未来老的时候，就可以翻来看看，到时会觉得自己在年少时原来那么努力，真是回味无穷。

可是我也有懒惰的时候，真的真的很懒惰，连功课都不想去碰。只想看电视，看电脑，看电话。尤其是娱乐即将来临时更不想读书了。

现在只是幼教文凭课程，没什么用途因为现在的就业机会都是学位的，而且薪水比较高。

未来想继续念学位课程，对自己说过，基础或文凭课程在国内念没关系，可是学位就不可以！

因为我想要试探这个世界，去到外面独立生活，去开拓视野，到底外国的学习程度和国内的有啥不一样，自己生活的滋味又怎么样？十万个问题在脑海里，不懂该怎么表达。

这个学期不是那么容易熬得过，很累，很忙碌的一个学期，虽然是两个月，可是功课却铁重如山，加上又有课外活动。

突如其来的忙碌，令我无法喘不过气来。每天都有写不完的功课，想起来，真的很讨厌！ 哈哈

很快地，这个学期又要过去了，回想起来，这个忙碌的学期，我不知道怎么熬得过来的哈哈。

不管怎么样，一定要在考试中获取全科优等。我！一！定！要！

最近觉得自己太想要出门玩，每次一知道考试时间表后，立刻查看飞机票哈哈

父母觉得我疯了，还一直念我，你很多钱哈？总是想飞！我立马说，爹地说一张飞机票很便宜勒！呵呵

父母还说，走吧，去你熟悉的地方！我笑了！因为妈妈那时候问我要不要去泰国，我说不要，去香港比较好，因为比较熟悉！

爸爸妈妈顿时笑翻了！还说我对新加坡比较熟悉哈哈

父母也因为我常常想出门而觉得我该转行去念飞机课程了哈哈

如果有这样的课程，我马上转！真的！

我家的沟通方式就是这样，严肃的时候很严肃。要玩的时候真的是全家疯了。可惜哥哥不在。

我，从来不告诉我妈妈爹地在哪里，反而是说，妈咪，你的老公在哪里？

我妈咪，从来不告诉我她老公在哪里，反而是说，妹，你的老爸在哪里？

我爸爸因为妈咪很少给我零用钱，就告诉我，妹，带你妈咪去教堂洗罪。我就很好奇问回他，做么勒？我爸就说，因为你妈咪没有给你钱。我笑死去。

这就是我的家。幸福的家。虽然目前只有我们三个在一起，但还是一样那么地逗趣。

他们对我付出无私的爱，对我无微不至，有时候的我要风得风，要雨得雨。

我妈妈生病时，眼睛不好时，爹地就会自动帮忙洗厨房的餐具。全部洗到完，我告诉他我要洗，他说哦。

结果我吃饱后，要洗时没有好洗了，被他洗完了。这么好的爹地和老公，到哪里去找？

有他们当我的父母，是我这辈子的荣幸。我愿上帝降幅他们平安，一辈子如此那么恩爱。

身为一个幼教老师，我觉得旅行也是一种很好的亲子活动。

因为国外的文化，风俗，是无法在课业里找到。就连现在的老师自己也不明白。

国外的与众不同，性格等等都无法学习得到，即使有学过，但没有亲身去体验来得好。

我个人喜欢旅行是因为亲身去体验国外的与众不同，然后增加自己对那国家的认识。

还有还有，中学毕业之后，身边的朋友都凭着各自的兴趣而奔向不同的学院，有的不在古晋。

所以当朋友回来时，不论自己多繁忙，都会想尽办法尽快完成手头上的功课，要不然就是抽空时间，就是为了见一见从远方回来的朋友！

也许这些只有好朋友才会做的事情吧。特地为了和远方回来的朋友而牺牲自己的功课时间。

虽然各自所在的地方不同，很遥远的距离，但科技的发达并没有让我们的关系变得疏远，反而拉近了我们的感情。

感谢上帝让我的生命有他们。真的很感恩，很庆幸。感谢赞美主。

愿天父的慈爱降幅你们平安，愿上帝的疼爱让我们的友情万岁。朋友们，我想你们了！

见面或相聚在一起时，都会很珍惜这世间的每一分每一秒，不让它流逝。

每次的见面都以减法来计算，这次见面，就不知道下次见面是何时了。

时间从来不等我们，唯一能做的事就是把握当下。

还有一点，最近马来西亚的天气非常炎热，天气预告局还说这个天气会继续热到九月。

哇老。真够力。每天还是超过30度。怎么能够耐这种热啊？！我的妈呀！

大家要多喝水，多冲凉，多喝凉茶，好好照顾自己。别因为天气炎热而生病。

好吧，不多说了。就这样。加油！